Forget about New Years Resolutions in January, they don’t work! You’re wasting your time! September is the best time to set New Year’s Resolutions.
Crazy idea, perhaps you disagree? Then answer this question; “why is it that most people who make them and seem quite serious about it, never really follow through and keep them?” A very good question don’t you think. I have addressed this issue before but on both occasions it was in January. Maybe now is a better time to take a different tact and initiate some thought, discussion and/or action around the idea.
Let me get straight to the point. I believe the “number one” reason why most people fail to keep their New Year’s Resolutions or resolutions in general is because they do not know themselves well enough nor understand why they operate in the world in the way they do. In other words knowing who you are now at a; physical, emotional, spiritual and intellectual level, and being aware of what your needs are, puts you in a much better position to be successful at making lasting changes to your behaviour. Perhaps the old adage; “to thine own self be true,” by William Shakespeare applies here.
“You must understand that sheer will power and determination alone will seldom carry you to a point of ‘no return’ to your particular negative or unacceptable behaviour.”
Let me give you an example of what I am talking about. It is an example I have used before but a very good one at making the point. Let’s say that you want to quite smoking. What is it about your personality that allows you to behave in such a destructive way to begin with? Who are you emotionally, physically, spiritually and intellectually? What type of smoker are you? Do you smoke to reduce anxiety, do you crave cigarettes or are you psychologically addicted, is it a habit, is it a pleasurable feeling for you, or do you like handling a cigarette? These questions need to be answered before you can strategize in a way that maximizes the likelihood of you succeeding in changing or eliminating smoking as a negative behaviour or habit